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| She was setting off the seatbelt thing in my car so she sat safely in a seatbelt. |
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| This was Dukes first vet visit. He was so scared. He is such a good boy. |
2.What are your favorite projects to do while hubby is away?
Decorate or craft. I love love love to do both!!!!! He always comes home to something new done to our house.
3.What are/were the must-haves in your deployment care packages?
Target brand cookies were Z's favorite, cheese its (because he can eat a whole box in ONE sitting), beef jerky, deoderant, toothpaste, his fav body wash, face wash, shampoo, gatorade and lemonade powder for his water bottles, dvd's, flipflops and basketball shorts so he could cool off when he wasn't out on missions, the list goes on and on. I made him a birthday in a box(5boxes actually) that consisted of cakes in a jar, all different frosting flavors, sprinkles, plates, napkins, forks, cups, lemonade mix, a couple fun things to match his poker theme, and a poker set and some other birthday presents. He was probably embarrassed to have that many boxes but he felt the love and that's all that mattered to me.
4.If you could star in any TV show, which would it be?
Army Wives so they get someone who has been through hell and back as an army wife's perspective. Love that show though. I cant help it.
5.What was the biggest hurdle that you faced during your/your significant other’s first deployment?
COMMUNICATION. It is a KEY element to all marriages but unfortunately when our spouses go through things they shut down certain emotions and different aspects of communication. Sometimes health issues can play into that and that is hard in and of itself but marriage is unconditional so you roll with the punches and learn to adapt and communicate differently. Who says Texting while you are in the same house is a bad thing? Sometimes our "woman emotions" are confusing to our husbands. DO whatever works for you. It is NOT an easy road during deployment but other than them being in danger I think their return is harder. Army I think has it worse in some respects simply because of the length of deployments (12months) but all branches experience the same things. That's why we have to stick together and stick by our husbands for whatever our journey brings us.
We had an R&R wedding and we faced some adversity from a few angles of people not understanding why we were getting married so suddenly, and asking questions like what happens if he changes, and I tried to give a generic answer as best I could to protect my husband of not divulging what he had already endured and seen, because that's my job, but when all of those people talked their madness I stood for what WE believed was best and went forward. I told him if he came back with no legs and no arms I would still love him the same. I still stand by that. He was fortunate to come back visually unharmed but the brain injury and the shoulder surgeries and the nightmares are all life altering contributors to him and to me. We have faced more in the 1.5 years of marriage and 4years together than anyone I know. We still keep facing things but it is all part of our journey. God has a plan in our life as well as yours. No matter how hard it gets cling to your husband and cling to your God.
